Productive night after our first wedding fight!

Well, it happened. Stacy and I had our first wedding related fight. It wasn't really all that bad and we handled it really well and I am super proud of us for that. We got in an argument while we were both at work regarding our engagement pictures which led to a few other things. What it basically boiled down to was that we were both in shitty moods and were not communicating well. We got home and talked it out for about a half an hour and realized that we just need to talk about some things more often and explain how we are feeling better. While this is a special day for both of us, I need to keep in mind that for a woman this day is one of the most anticipated days of her life. But trying to make everything 100% perfect is too much stress/pressure for anyone. We just want it to be awesome and fun. Totally doable.

After we talked we picked out two engagement photos that we will potentially use for our engagement announcements/save the date cards. We are both very happy with them and can't wait to see them edited.

Then we looked for these lights that I want to use to use for decorating the reception area. I was at Periscope Cellars recently and I love how that place is decorated. They have these strands of lights and this sheer white cloth with them. It just looks so classy and elegant. I want something similar outside for our reception. The lights look kind of like fancy christmas lights. Like these...



After that we went to get burritos and watched the Dodger school the Giants for the second night in a row. I know that the dodgers are going to sweep the Giants. They are playing crazy well!

Then we got back to wedding business. As I predicted we hadn't worked on the budget since the day after I first blogged and it stressing me out a bit. We are still waiting for a total from the ceremony/reception site but we figured out how much it would cost for tables, linens, chairs, and a dance floor. Its not too bad but hard to figure out what all we will need. All that stuff came out to about $650. Doesn't seem like a ton to me but I think we can do at least a little better.

We calculated what we should be spending on some of this stuff based on The Knot's budget breakdown but it doesn't really work for us because we are spending way more in certain areas and not nearly as much in others. I think the next step will be to write down what we know we are spending and work from there.

The next part to think about was the food for the reception. Catering is seriously so expensive. It ranges anywhere from $10 a person to $200 per person! Who in the world has $200 to spend on one person at their wedding. I mean, the only people I can think of that working for are Steve Jobs and some couple who only has two friends and no family. Its crazy!

Stacy and I looked up some stuff on doing it ourselves but that would put so much pressure on us and seems like it might be an unnecessary stress so close to the wedding. Then we had a breakthrough. I was looking on craigslist for caterers and found an ad titled "Taco Fiesta"! Its a woman who caters tacos and quesadilla! She grills them right there! You get to pick your meats! And they come with onions, cilantro, salsa, radishes, lemons, grilled onions and jalapenos! AND the tortillas are homemade! This sounds like a great idea to Stacy and I but it also got me on the idea of perhaps having a taco truck cater the wedding. I mean how sweet would a taco truck be to have at the wedding? Crazy awesome! I put some feelers out for Taco Trucks around Santa Barbara but I think I will email the woman from craigslist as well.

So the evening was really productive and I feel good about what we got accomplished. I am sure we will do more and more and more as more time goes by. Tomorrows goals are to email the photographer we want and to email the taco lady to get a quote.

And with that, I will leave you with a drawing I did while budgeting for the reception!